By Michelle Smith Howard, President & CEO of Kids’ First Years
Alexandria, VA – Thanksgiving officially kicks off the holiday season, and calendars will be filled with festive events featuring food, fun, and family time. However, the hustle and bustle of this busy time of year can cause parents with young children to feel stressed and anxious instead of calm and peaceful.
Kids’ First Years offers some suggestions to help families in Alexandria embrace the holidays with a maximum of love and a minimum of stress.
Manage your own big emotions. One of the most important things you can do before engaging with your child is to check in with your emotions. Reflect and ask yourself, “How am I feeling?” and “Do I have the ability to stay calm, kind and loving?” Once those questions are answered, you can be more mindful about the interactions with your little ones. How we feel as parents ultimately impacts how our children experience us.
Take care of yourself. If we desire to create warm, positive memories for our children during the holiday season, we must first be well ourselves. If you are not in the best emotional place, take some time for self-care. Getting enough sleep, exercising, and eating nutritious food are essential to self-care, as well as surrounding yourself with positive people. Most important, take time to create opportunities for joy and peace for yourself and your family.
Spend time together as a family. Alexandria’s families observe lots of rich cultural experiences, rituals, and traditions from Thanksgiving through mid-January. Some popular holiday activities include going to concerts, driving through neighborhoods to look at the lights, baking cookies and other seasonal treats, and decorating around the house, just to name a few. If you don’t already have rituals, invite your children to create new family traditions they’ll look forward to each year. Many activities, such as baking, reading holiday books, and making decorations or greeting cards, can be very beneficial to a child’s development.
Rely on local resources if needed. Throughout the year, families try to be self-sufficient without asking for help. However, extra support is often needed over the holidays, especially if daily demands, entertaining, and holiday hoopla seem overwhelming. One way to minimize stress is to reach out to local resources, many of which can provide opportunities for family fun and financial relief. To connect with Kids’ First Years and its community partners that support families with young children, visit kidsfirstyears.org.
Manage expectations of your child and yourself. To lessen the stress associated with gift-giving, it is important to talk to your children about what they may or may not expect to experience during the holiday season. When sharing what may be possible, include activities and experiences that align with your financial truth.
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- Think ahead about stressful situations. Plan for how you can improve or avoid them. Take snacks or a book on errands (such as holiday shopping) so your child has something to do. Avoid trips to the store right before naptime.
- Take some time to let go of stress. Close your eyes, sit comfortably, and let your mind settle. Take slow, deep breaths, filling up your belly and exhaling slowly. Silently count your breaths or repeat a calming word like “peace.” Notice your feelings, but don’t judge them.
- Think about what really matters and what doesn’t. Let your child wear the shirt backward if that will make life easier while you’re involved in a holiday task.
- Involve your child in decision-making. Offer choices but give a limited number of options. For example, at snack time, ask, “Do you want apple slices or grapes?” Be patient if it takes your child a few moments to decide.
